Sex drive or libido is truly ‘LIFE DRIVE’ for the humanity. Men are both hands PRO this statement, women know this fact and successfully using it on ‘driving men’. Lack of sex drive is rather common in women and quite rare in men.
Sex drive is the ability or need to have sex regularly. Libido is an urge to copulate that in humans goes through sex. Low sex drive (or low libido) means lack of sexual desire.
Everyone (especially women) at least once in their livesexperience that at some point. Though low sex drive should not be confused with erectile dysfunction (in men) and with inability to achieve orgasm (in women), this is not the same. Low libido is a variation of the norm, but only as a temporary experience. If the decline in sexual desire persists, it may cause problems. However, it is not always obvious even for you.
The signs of a low sex drive include:
· Less frequent sexual thoughts and fantasies
· Reduced sexual desire
· Reluctance to initiate sex
· Less frequent masturbation
· In women – lack of desire for sex when you’ve gone without sex for days, weeks, or months
· In men – absence of penis erection (or just hardening of penis) when stimulating and touching erogenous zones (like penis and nipples)
Causes of low sex drive can be some physical conditions or psychological problems. The most important and the most difficult step in finding the way out is to identify the reason of low libido. Only after this you can find the most effective solution and enjoy your sexual life (and desire for sexual life) again.
Physical causes include:
· Alcoholism – Though very small doses of alcohol wash away the social wheels and reduce shyness, excessive alcohol use can greatly diminish your sex drive.
· Some drugs – lots of medications may interfere with arousal and even the ability to achieve orgasm in men and women
· Major diseases (diabetes, Addison’s disease, Cushing’s syndrome, cancer, arthritis, kidney disease, epilepsy, Spinal Cord Injury and Thyroid Disorders)
· Drug abuse (such as cocaine)
· Hyperprolactinaemia – a rare disorder where the pituitary gland produces too much of the hormone prolactin
· Anorexia (mostly in women) or obesity (both) – anorexia is a psychological problem of woman that considers herself unattractive and sexually undesirable. Obese people may lack some important hormones for sexual desire and also feel themselves not attractive, that’s why not interested in sex. For them also is rather hard to actively perform sex.
· Post-baby coolness. NO, this is not only women’s problem. In women it is connected with hormonal changes that occur after childbirth. They also usually are too exhausted to even think about sex. In men the problem is different. They may not want to have sex as they can not have sexual desire to a mother (because it becomes very hard to associate your own wife as a lover and not a mother after the childbirth – and who wants to have sex with mothers?)
· Anaemia – after too heavy period (in women) or after bleeding (in men)
· Hormone abnormalities (for example low testosterone level)
Psychological causes include:
· Depression – when depressed you want nothing, including sex
· Stress and overwork (also fear and anxiety in women)
· Hang-ups from childhood
· Past sexual abuse or rap – in women and in men is a deeply traumatic experience and may lead to fear and avoidance of sexual experiences later in life
· Latent lesbianism or homosexuality
· Serious relationship problems with your partner
· Difficult living conditions – lack of money or absence of good apartment (or even separate room)
For MEN there are no medicines available that will increase male libido, there are only for successful erection – drugs for erectile dysfunction
All these drugs contain different active ingredients that enhance the actions of the chemical messengers responsible for producing an erection and thus ‘produce’ the erection
· Cialis – contains an active ingredient tadalafil (works for 36 hours after dose)
· Levitra – contains vardenafil (works 4-5 hours)
· Viagra – contains sildenafil (works 3-4 hours)
These drugs increase blood flow into the penis and cause an erection.
· MUSE – is administered by application into the opening at the end of the penisor used as a penis injection (30 minutes or one hour result)
· Caverject or Viridal Duo- is administered by injection directly into the penis (into the opening at the end of the penis (urethra)) (effect lasts one hour)
What mechanical aids could be done?
· Vacuum pump – is helps the blood be drawn more effectively into the penis
· Construction ring – the same principle
· Semi-rigid (or inflatable ) penile prosthesis – surgery to insert flexible rods (or two cylinders, with a pump and fluid reservoir in the scrotum) into the shaft of the penis
· Arterial surgery – surgery to repair an injury or blockage to the arteries going to the penis
If you are a WOMAN the following drugs can be useful for you:
· Hormones (particularly the male sex hormone testosterone) – Testosterone is one key player in your sex drive: it affects interest, arousal, sexual response, lubrication and orgasm
· Eros or any other inexpensive suction (as well as non-suction) vibrator – it is really hard to decline the result
· Desire cream – it contains an active ingredient that produces a tingly sensation in the clitoris
· Erection drugs – they may have a beneficial ‘local’ effect in increasing blood flow to the vagina and clitoris (or sometimes lubrication) for a few hours
Sex therapist may also help. Talking about sex and doing your daily ‘homework’ very often helps.
As well as with medical approaches you should consult your doctor first and try to identify the reason (the root of the problem). The following herbs can help you in increasing you sex drive:
· Jasmine – in candles, in tea, or in oil (do a massage)
· Geranium – candles, bath oil, incense or as a pillow linen spray – it stimulatesadrenalins in the body which in turn stimulate the libdo
· Cardamom – increases energy, relieves fatigue and helps with depression
· Grapefruit – nice aphrodisiac
· Clove – also an aphrodisiac that somehow heats up the body
· Fenugreek (mainly for women) – has an estrogenic effect, increases libido and minimizes vaginal dryness
· Tribulus Terrestris – contains an active ingredient steroidal saponins (also including furostanol glycosides and spirostanol glycosides), used for infertility, low libido erectile dysfunction and to icrease stamina and improve sports performance. It boosts testosterone and increase libido and staimina
· Ashwagandha root (Indian Winter Cherry) – enhances libido
· Catuba bark – is considered to have aphrodisiac properties; and is used for nervousness, poor memory, and helping with sexual weakness
· Mucuna Pruriens – besides antioxidant properties it contains L-Dopa which is used by the body to make dopamine, an important brain chemical involved in mood and sexuality
· Yohimbe bark – supports of erectile function in men and provides sensation and engorgement of genital organs in women
· Marapama bark (and root) – used for the treatment of low libido, fatigue, neuromuscular problems, and rheumatism
· Pine Nuts – maintain male potency (as contains plenty of zinc)
· Rhizome root – influences sexual activity and in turn helps with increasing libido levels
· Fennel – contains an estrogen-like substance (estirol) that turns out libido
· Hawthorn – improves circulation to extremities (genitalia as well) and promotes movement of hormones in blood
Some kind of food also arouses your sexual desire. Ginger can sharpen your mind so you can focus on making love. Garlic enhances sex drive to enormous level (but don’t forget to eat it both). Different spicy foods heat up the desires; and of course – chocolate – gives plenty of pleasure (sex is not now necessary for some women) as it releases in the brain positive emotions such as falling in love and increases feeling of happiness.
Don’t forget about useful sex exercise both for men and women – Kegal exercises that enhances sexual gratification, spend more time on foreplay before sex and remember – sex is not an intercourse, this is the ‘intimacy’ between the couple: touching, kissing, holding and other ‘petting-like’ things.
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I have been with my hubby for 6 years and we’ve never had a “strong” sex life, but it used to be much much better. We used to have sex once maybe twice a week. But now it’s more like once or twice a month. We have 2 children and definitely since i had the baby (16 months ago)my sex drive has dropped even more. He is absolutely amazing in bed and has no problems getting me to climax many many times. While we are having sex i enjoy it very much. But it’s just wanting to have sex. I have to force myself which he catches onto in about 2 minutes and totally kills his mood and then i feel terrible. I really feel like this is going to ruin our marriage. Are there any natural herbs i can take to try and help with this? I need to do something. He tells me all of the time how sexy i am to him and he’s always touching me and feeling on me. I need help!! Email me email@example.com. Thanks!!
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My bf and I have been together over 5 years. I have adult cystic fibrosis and was diagnosed with it when I was 26. I am now 30. We have a 20 month old daughter and I’m 12 weeks pregnant. I used to have a very high sex drive. In my previous relationships I had sex almost everyday if not a couple times a day. Now that I’m with my current boyfriend my libido has completely disappeared. Lately we’ve been fighting about it. We only have sex 2 times a month maybe 4 at the most. I feel bad because I want to please him sexually but I just don’t have it in me. I’m starting to think something’s wrong with me. Is there anything that I can do to get my libido back??? I’ve heard going to the gym helps. I can’t take anything because I’m pregnant. Please help! He’s been dealing with this for 5 years and I’m afraid that one day he’s going to leave me because of our sexual problems. email@example.com
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I’m a 28yr. old woman with type 1 diabetes. My libido is extremely low and i’m dry all the time, i never get horny or think of sex! I feel like a complete failure in the bed, i hate it! I’m a hot girl who feels like an old shriveled up lady. My partner and i when we first got together we had sex 2-4 times a day and now once a week to a month. I only have sex with him so he’ll leave me a lone, but deep down i really want to make love and be able to enjoy it, but i can’t. When i don’t orgasm i blame him and it causes me to hate him. I don’t know if it’s just me or if it’s because were falling out of love. Sex for me is torture, please help!
i am sixteen years old and my girlfriend has a problem with low labido (17) when we do have sex it’s great it usually lasts for me for anywhere between 30 minutes and 2 hours, and when we have sex she usually cums way before me, but it’s the getting to have sex that’s the problem she hardly ever wants to, she has regular mood swings and such, but i can never seem to get her in the mood, i don’t know what to do, help?
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My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. Lately we’re coming off of a rough patch that almost tore us apart for good. So I don’t know if this rough patch is what killed my sex drive or if its something else. I’m 27 years old and she’s 25 years older than I am. We used to have sex 5-6 times a day, my baby used to wear me out. Now we have sex only once a week if not less, and it’s because of me. She throws herself @ me and I can barely respond downstairs. I love her so much, I don’t want this to ruin our relationship. Hell,we’ve been together alot longer than our married friends, we used to brag and make fun of them that our sex life was better than theirs. Now I’m a little embarrassed that I can’t get it up, I mean how bad is it when the 27 year old is having problems and his 52 year old girlfriend isn’t. I’m still attracted to her, she hasn’t aged a bit so I know thats not the problem If thats what you’re thinking. I can use some help please! I don’t want to lose my baby because I can’t get it up, I love her so much.
I am turning 25 years old this week. I have a low sex drive i believe from a car accident in the past. I am taking ginseng and ginko goloba for help but no results for the past month of use. I used to have sex with my girl friend 4-5 time a s day everyday and now i can no longer sustain a erection for 10 mins and cant go as often. My penis will not stay as hard and the ability to feel like have sex is diminishing. Please help me to find a vitamin i can goto the store and buy or tell me what i need to do to heal this problem. PLEASE
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I’m a 27 year old male who thinks about sex all the time….I use to masturbate at least 3-4 times a week if not everyday….here recently i havent had the urges as much maybe if i go without for about a week…and when i have sex with my girl if i did masturbate within 3 days of having sex its hard for me to get a complete erection or it doesnt stay long and its been like that for a while…it might have something to do with my diet, also i have shown signs of multiple sclerosis and haven’t seen a dr yet…but what are some home remedies foods etc to help with this annoying prob…you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org as well
Hi I’m 22 years old and have 2 kids I’m married and I just never find my self in the mood I can go days weeks and even months without feel the need to want to have sex do you have any suggestions for me because I know I should be a little more into sex being as though I’m only 22 please email me any suggestions at email@example.com
I am 32 years old , i started masturbating since i was 15. Now recently I got married. My problem is i donot get erection and if i get one it does not sustain for a long time with rigidity. Can you pls suggest me herbal medicines/food so that i overcome this problem. I just want our marriage to be wonderful and happy you can also email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with answers asap thanks.
I wish you would stop indicating (in parentheses) that it is the WOMAN who commonly has low sex drive! Whatever statistics say, for you to constantly insinuate that it is the woman who has the problem shows that you are quick to dismiss the fact that the problem might be the man’s. I am myself a supportive wife, with a hot 25-year-old’s body, and a high sex drive, dealing with a husband who lacks in two out of three of these areas. Do you have any suggestions for a woman to improve married sex life? Working out – check. Being supportive – check. Oral – check. Demonstrative – check. He smokes and drinks, but so does his brother, and he’s fine. He has little to no body hair – does this indicate low testosterone? His brother has considerable body hair and he has an active sex life with gf (friend of mine- so I know) – HELP